Victims are not made nor
born. Becoming a victim is somehow a logical balance between destiny and
choice. According to Sykes (1992), one unfortunate
event cannot raise a victim, there must be a fixed viscosity in the
surroundings to be able to raise a victim. Once a person became a victim, they
can either turn away from being a victim or turn into a victimizer as well
(Bloom, 1999). A person doesn’t like the feeling of being defeated, being a
victim makes them feel helpless and powerless and losing power is a pernicious
human experience. According to Ruback
& Schaffer (2002) old victimization could be the best foretell of a coming
victimization. Past victimizations such as tortures, domestic violence can turn
a person into a victimizer. Moreover, to escape the shell of being helpless,
the victim will eventually find a way wherein he can showcase his power and
without realizing it he also became the perpetrator (Bloom, 1999). In that way,
a person can feel satisfied and avoid the feeling of helplessness.
Our various cultures can also trigger a victim to
turn into a victimizer. Cultures such as, men should be stronger than women can
create a connotation that men should be in the upper hand. The idea of men
being in the upper hand results to a connotation that men are often the
victimizers and women being the victims.
The male-dominated patriarchal system is mainly the cause why people put
all the blame and responsibility to the males for all of the unfortunate and
evil things such as wars and cases of different kinds of abuse that has been
happening in the world (Keen, 1991; Sykes, 1992; Zur, 1989, and Zur &
Glendinning, 1987). However, not all the time males are the victimizers, they
can also be a victim. According to Langton, Planty & Truman(2013), males
often get victimized by a non-native.
The influence of our beliefs not only allow, but
also encourages chances of people being a victim and a victimizer. The great
impact of our culture to us can also dictate what will happen in our lives. Our
mindset about masculinity and feminism is mainly the reason why men are more
likely to be the abuser/victimizer and women as the victims.